Communication in Relationship
The framework of communication in relationships is in 3 processes. (De Fleur et al 2005)
- Engagement
- Management
- Disengagement
First contact to someone you are interested, how you get interested at that someone --> how u maintain relationship (communication) --> how causes problem in a relationship that lends to break up
I bet all of you have fall in love before.
When we first started to have interest in someone mostly it will be base on first impression. If the first impression is bad you will not be interested or wants to talk to that person at all. First impression consist of physical appearance, the way the person speak, the way they present themselves, their hobby, similarities and differences, proximity and more. Among all these points I feel that physical appearance plays a big part. I know it may sound bad but it is very true. You do not have to be very beautiful but you have to look presentable. What you wear and how you wear actually depicts your character as well. If you wear messily or dirtily I guess no one will wants to be close to you unless you are asking for help and etc.
To get attached with someone is easy but to maintain a relationship is hard. For example, how much you disclose your secret and information to your partner, how you solve conflicts, and what you need and want from your partner. Every one of us is individual and unique. You will hardly find two people with completely the same personality but if you found it there will be problems too. For example, A is a competitive person and she/he has to win all the time and if the other party is the same they will be quarrelling all the time to determine that they win. However, if you find someone with different personality will be conflicts too. Thus, able to solve relationship problems together is important.
There is a question that I will like to mention here which is being asked during lesson time. What are the top 3 things that you cannot accept that you will break off with your partner? Mine answer is rather typical I guess…. 1) Betrayal 2) Family Pressure 3) Future Plans. WHO can actually accept someone that betrays you. Especially women. They will say they have forgiven you but it does not mean that they have forgotten about that matter. The marks and scars will still exist.
Hello peeps =) Do comment about your top 3 things that you can’t accept that/till you will break off with your partner at my comment box for some discussions.
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First impression is really the key issue for all sort of first meet up, be it friend meets new friend or saleman meeting customer.
ReplyDeleteLiving in a realistic society, physical appearance plays an important role. For instance, if a 22 years old untidy shag man comes up to you, and a 30 years old suave rich looking man comes up to you, who will you walk away from?
3 top things that i will not be able to accept from my partner are:
1) dishonest
2) betrayal
3) family violence and abuse
First impression is important for all first time meet up which brings in the factor - Physical appearance. It's amazed how some people could fall in love just by the good looking of one.
ReplyDeleteTrue enough, some people tend to overlook the character of one. That's when after some times, the relationship falls apart.
People with bad characters - foul temper, dishonesty, not faithful to one partner, etc. This will lead to quarrels and quarrels which eventually becomes a big issue in the relationship.
In conclusion, to start off in a good and healthy relationship, no doubt, communication is very important. Communication is the center of all successful and happy relationships, be completely honest with your partner no matter how scared you are about their response.
3 top things that i will not be able to accept from my partner are:
1. Being Overprotective
2. Being Uninteresting
3. Unfaithful
It is true that first impression is basically what draws a person to another. Just like the example you had stated above, physical appearance will speak for that particular person. But this situation isn't true at all times as communication method between the couple are still the main factor that put them together.
ReplyDeleteTime to time, people falls in and out of relationship as they might not have the capability to solve conflicts and disagreements that occurs in the journey of their relationship life. And this might be due to the overlook of the compatibility in character.
Every each and one of us and different in some ways and in order to work out a relationship, 2 parties should work together to compromise and to understand each other.
3 things that will knock my bell of breaking up could be:
1. Unfaithful
2. disrespect (family or self)
3. future planning
First impression is important, but on the other hand, it is very unfair to the person. Maybe the person flawed on his first time to you because he was nervous meeting you for the first time. So maybe he was nervous that he kept sratching his head while talking to you, then you might think 'why is this person so "weird", so annoying?'
ReplyDeleteThus i feel like everybody should be given a second chance, when you know the person better.
So about Top 3 things.
1. Unfaithful
2. Overprotective / controlling
3.Not punctual and no accountability, unless there's a valid reason
On corporate and media level, first impression consist of a large slice of pie. However on relationship and friendship level, you might want to look more in depth, character etc.
ReplyDeleteThe "3 things"
1)overdependent
2)take things for granted
3)egoistic
As the word already gave clue on it's own - it's first impression; the first general idea you get from a person. However a person is going to be judged depends very much on observer. The degree placed on first impression differs across populations and people do realize their misjudgment only after some time.
ReplyDeleteYet again, it could be that the observer has already been influenced by other factors which then lead to misinterpretation in the first place. I guess it is very hard to just talk about first impression on its own - we always carry a prior knowledge and some forms of prejudice toward certain issues. First impression may after all, not be first impression.
2 things I can't accept:
- Lack of respect towards others
- Indifferent
I think Betrayal would be a factor that a majority would not accept, as it cuts deep and leaves long lasting psychological effects, such as insecurity, hatred etc.
ReplyDeleteAbout first impressions, sure, looks play a part, but I feel that at the end of the day, it boils down to character. I also agree with sunrise hovering dawn that first impression considers other factors such as actions the way the person carries himself or herself.
-Li Rong
hey there. i think physicality definitely plays an important role in first impression. we are all humans and we cannot deny that we want to look good. by doing so we also unknowingly judge people by their looks. however, we can still be practical and fair by telling ourselves not to totally draw away from a person just because the person does not look good to you personally.
ReplyDeletemany things do cause break ups. but i think the top three for me would be:
>unfaithfulness
>distrust
>no accountability
Hello!
ReplyDeleteFor me, in the order of importance,
1) Future Plans
2) Stable income
3) Honesty
Of course, most people are lying if they say "looks doesnt matter". The first thing which gives rise to formation of The First Impression would be looks. How the person is dressed, whether the person have nice facial features, etc and the list never ends.
Personally I feel that, it is not easy to start a relationship. Even more difficult to maintain one. If we are able to find the person, it is important that we communicate with this person properly. (:
HELLO MICHELLE! :D I found your blog! HAHA
ReplyDeleteFor me, I guess 3 of the things which irks me the most would be:
1. Lack of trust
2. Lack of communication
3. Insensitivity
Relationships are tricky and messy little things and there is no right way to handle it. But I guess every now and then, we meet someone that sweeps us off our feet and despite whatever shortcomings that person has, we live with it and start to see the imperfections as perfections :)
I totally agree with you that relationships are hard to maintain but I guess so long as both parties put in a little effort, it will make a huge difference and love will continue to blossom :) Like they say, a little effort goes a longggg way! ;D
First impression really come in, as it lets us know whether we will feel comfortable with the person. Our mindset do comes differently, you may just want to test it out more people, whereby a stranger walk past, how each of them think about the stranger.
ReplyDeleteThe top three I hate the most:
1) Betrayal
2) Lack of understanding
3) take things for granted
To maintain a good relationship, I feel that both parties should put in effort and definitely must not take things for granted. And it can be a problem as the effort is not being appreciated.
It is true that most people take the first impression to judge a person. Thus, first impression is very important. it is quite sad that most people would pass judegment using first impression. Interactions and taking slow steps should be the way to know a person well.
ReplyDeleteHmmm... I would not stand
1) Unfaithfulness
2) Disrepectful
3) Overly Dominating
To conclude, the highest poll for "top three things that you cannnot stand" here is unfaithful.
ReplyDeleteI would not stand
ReplyDelete1) Unfaithfulness
2) lack of understanding
3) lack of communication.
YES! a relationship has 3 stages if it is not successful. Thus, the maintaining of relationship stage is very important
for me, it will be betrayal, possessive, not trustworthy. these are the 3 things that i believe, its a no no. if u cant trust this guy, whats the point of continuing when you know that he will never change in future? ya
ReplyDeleteNice post, Mich!
ReplyDeleteFor me, the top 3 things that i can’t accept that/till i will break off with my partner would be as follows:
1. Insecurities
2. Honesty/Trust
3. Cheating
1. Insecurites are scary. Yeah they’re kind of taboo perhaps, but who doesn’t have them? Everyone has something they’re insecure about. You too, right? Sometimes it could be a really causal remark that he/she made, and you felt insecure.
Or it might be a causal remark that YOU made, and he/she felt insecure. And you might think: What have i done this time round?
Sometimes, you might just think:
Will i screw up and lose him/her?
If in a relationship makes you tired, tired of thinking and fearing so much. It's not worth it.
2. Honesty/Trust. They both take time to build. Telling a honest lie doesn't mean you're being honest. If there's love, and you love your partner, why lie at the first place?
And because he/she trusts you, doesn't mean you can lie. You're doing all these and never know you're breaking his/her heart.
Be honest to your partner. Nevermind about the outcome or the consequences after being honest. If he/she loves you, they will let out and let go. Trust is important too. Having to check your partner's contact list, messages, facebook and all, aren't a honest thing to do either. Thats where trust comes in. Because you don't trust your partner.
3. Honestly, there can’t be another faster or more cowardly way to end a relationship.
I guess this is the mistake everyone tries to avoid, but probably also one of the more common pitfalls causing broken relationships. If you want to see someone else, be a responsible lover, give yourself some time to think and sort of your feelings.
Long time couples often complain about diminishing communication. They interpret it being taken advantage of, loss of spark or spontaneity, or worst of all loss of intimacy.
To me that’s the greatest thing about it. To know some one so completely that you no longer need to speak openly, that with a glance or a touch you can communicate a thought or desire that can only be understood by someone who shares so much history with you, so much of your heart, is, to me, what love is all about.
Love is not a placebo or an antidepressant to help you feel better or lift your spirits. But it is not like learning to tie your shoes, either.
Love often feels like the next step after a beneficial friendship. And everyone’s thought about dating their friends comes down to this: everything you are represents everything I’ve ever wanted in a man.
-Estie-