This week I would like to touch about non-verbal communication. Do check out this 5mins short clip provided above.
In this short clip, it shows you how you can determine whether a person welcomes you, whether a person is lying to you or whether a person is promising. I totally agree with this clip except * part two which I have yet to test it out.
I split this short clip into 3 parts:
1st part – If a person open his/her arms to welcome you means they are really welcoming you and welcome for a hug. However, if a person is standing like a stiff fish probably he/she does not welcome you or he/she does not want a hug from you.
*2nd part – Your brain is split in to two parts. For right hander they will use their left side of the brain for logical thinking while right side of the brain for creativity. If you ask someone a question and he/she looks to the right side and answer you, he/she is probably lying to you as he/she is using his creativity to come out with a lie. While the left hander will be at the opposite side.
· You may want to try this test by asking random questions from your friend/instructor?
3rd part – Your words may lie but your body can’t lie. Normally when a person who lie to you his/her will move/act opposite or different from what he/she has said or the person will look distracted.
As we say actions speaks louder than words. From one's action, we can see the whole picture and the truth. I totally agree with it. The part that we can least control will be our eyes. Our eyes are “tools” that pass messages and cues to people.
In a face to face conversation, it consists of verbal and non-verbal communication. However, whether the conversations/words are true, the receiver will base from non-verbal cues he/she received.
For example, A says “I Love You” to B. If A is busy looking somewhere else while saying “I Love You” I don’t think B will believe what A has said.
Most of the time we will look at the dynamic features of non-verbal communication such as eye contacts, body movements, gestures, facial expression, space and paralanguage.
SIDE TRACK:
To the girls and boys out there… How you know whether your partner is lying to you? Look straight into his eyes and observe how his/her eyes move!
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It is quite true that people tends to act akwardly when they face some situations. Take situations like telling lies for example. We can expose people easily when they tell lies if we are able to identify the little actions they made as shown in the video. However, some experienced salesman could tell lies without blinking their eyes at all! ( I don't mean all the salesman of course.) So I figured that years of experience a dishonest salesman had gained, registered a habit when they tell lies. Thus, making it all seems so natural that we believed in whatever he said. So, I think in order for us to read somebody's mind, more study on the man is needed.
ReplyDeleteHello Michelle!
ReplyDeleteLeft brainers and Right brainers tends to have different manners of potraying non-verbal communications! Not so much about lying though.
When a right brainer is bored during a lecture, you'll see doodles on their notes and them twiddling with the pen. Left brainers would probably just stone.
Good indication of whether we are talking about things that interest people dont you think? (:
I would like to comment on the first part of the clip. its not true to a certain extent. sometimes, its just awkward to give hugs to strangers. it doesnt mean that you dont welcome the person. this is probably because of the different culture that we have in asia as compared to the western countries. dont you agree ?
ReplyDeleteI agreed that from looking at ones bodying posture, it do convey a message of that person.
ReplyDeleteBody language is a form of non-verbal communication, it do speak for that person. In addiditon, there are various physical expression such as waving hands, crossing hands or placing hands on hips, could be used to reveal many things about the person using them.
Actions indeed speak louder than words. People tend to believe actions more than words. And what we do is a means of communication, subject to interpretation by others.
ReplyDeleteNonverbal communication, or body language, is a vital form of communication. When we interact with others, we continuously give and receive countless wordless signals.
The nonverbal signals you send either produce a sense of interest, trust, and desire for connection, or they simply generate disinterest, distrust, and confusion.
The video is very debatable. there is no absolute in behaviorism, although those that he talked about can be used for certain situation.
ReplyDeletehey there.
ReplyDeleteyour clip was interesting =)
yes your eyes are the windows to your heart. it really shows everything that you mean. the non verbal aspects of communication plays a larger role than we ever expected. when you realise how effective the understanding of communication is, many things will come through in a different light!
I do agree to a certain extent for the first part, as culture do come in to human behaviour.
ReplyDeleteFor eyes contact, I would say that it is the most basic thing to tell you whether the person is interested, as we don't usually talk with our eyes on the ground.
Body language comes in naturally, and it's hard to control when you are lying.
Totally agree, actions speak louder than words. However, some people can just lie without any flaws.. Mostly are the sales men who always "con" use to buy their products.
ReplyDeleteBody language is important. A few words can be convey with a movement. thats how powerful it is. it is just like non-verbal communication.
ReplyDeleteyes. i always believe in looking at someone eyes to "check" whether they are lying to me or not. our gesture, movement,facial impression will show how we feel too.
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